In an assembly line, waste is expensive.
To increase profits, we need to cut waste thereby improving efficiency.
In a relationship, however, waste is valuable.
Consider two friends.
One only catches up with you when it fits into their schedule. Efficient.
The other drops what they’re doing and spends their time with you instead. Wasteful.
Wasted time (even if its the same amount of time) is received by us as having more value.
If you waste time connecting with us, yes you may lose efficiency, but you become more valuable.